Try this exercise. Take a ball and throw it in the air and catch it. Now, do the same thing, but think that you are going to miss it. Do not try to miss the ball; just think that you are going to miss it.
Even though you are thinking that you are going to miss, you still probably caught the ball. Therefore, just because you thought something bad (missing the ball) was going to happen, it did not actually happen.
The same can be said for OCD treatment. You may not feel you are in control of your thoughts, but this does not mean that you are unable to do anything to regain control. In fact, the initial goal of therapy is to get people to change their behavior even though they do not really believe 100 percent that it will change.
One of the major obstacles to OCD treatment is that people think they need to be in control of all of their thoughts and actions, and this is simply not true. If it were, then everyone would be hitting holes in one on the golf course (control of your actions), and no one would ever have a negative thought again. This will simply not happen, and it’s OK. It’s all about handling your reaction to inevitable negative thoughts, impulses, or images.
Remember this: you have never been, nor will you ever be, in total control of anything. To prove this, just try to stop blinking for the rest of your life. It is impossible. Once you can accept that, you will find it much easier to go and challenge things and accept that a lack of control is a reality for everyone, not just you.