Children and teens with Asperger’s Disorder are often accused of being selfish and insensitive to the feelings of others. Their lack of responsiveness, failure to ask the other person about their feelings, and changing the topic to themselves appears to lack sensitivity.
While this type of behavior is insensitive, the intention is not. They simply do not register and interpret people’s emotions. They do not see the emotions, hear them, or feel them like most people do. Nor do they understand how another person feels. The Asperger’s Disorder child is really clueless as to how others feel. The insensitive things they say and do is a result of not attributing emotions to other people.
Odd as it seems, even though they certainly know what it feels like to have someone hurt their feelings, they do not grasp that others have the same emotional experiences that they do. They understand the emotions of people about as well as we understand the emotional life of an aardvark.