Compliments make most people feel good about themselves. Asperger’s Disorder children are hungry for compliments but are often the least likely to receive them. The goal of compliments is to help your child feel competent and increase the chance he will repeat the behavior.
Compliments need to be truthful and genuine. False compliments can easily be detected by children, particularly those given by their parents. Compliment only when your child earns it with his effort or performance.
Since compliments belong to the receiver, they need to be about the receiver. Rather than telling your child how proud you are of him, tell him you hope he is proud of himself. You want him to be able to feel his own pride so that he will want to repeat the behavior and take pride in himself.
Make compliments only about praise, not an opportunity to teach, coach, or motivate. “You did a great job cleaning your room!” is only a compliment if you don’t add, “Why can’t you do it like this every time?”