The first thing to realize is that the OCD is your OCD and not your children’s.
Therefore, if they do not perform up to what your obsessions tell you are necessary standards, or they clean in a way that you find unacceptable (according to your OCD), it is not fair for you to be angry at them or to take out your frustrations on them.
Being a successful parent is difficult even without OCD, and there are no guarantees, even if you have the best mental health in the world, that your children will turn out to be “angels.”
That said, you can be a successful parent if you have OCD by doing something to take care of yourself, and that means going to therapy or staying on a prescribed dosage of medication. Be sure that you follow through with the recommendations of your therapist and that you talk to the therapist if you feel that your OCD is having an impact on your family.
If you want your OCD to have as little impact as possible on your children, then you need to do whatever it takes to keep yourself healthy.
Also, some family therapy may also be beneficial. Your therapist can explain to your family what OCD is and how it affects you, therefore giving them some helpful information about the disorder, in addition to tips that they can use to assist you in your therapy.