One of children’s biggest complaints about being teased is that adults do not do anything to help. Children are told to work it out themselves, yet they do not possess the knowledge, skills, or impulse control to do so.
They are also told to just ignore it. Any frequently teased child will tell you that ignoring simply does not work. Children who tease others can be relentless and have far more stamina in their teasing than your Asperger’s Disorder child has in ignoring.
Help your child understand that the reason he keeps getting teased is because he reacts. His reaction is like a jackpot on a slot machine, urging the teaser to keep going. Encourage your child not to be a reactor but instead to be a joiner. Joining in the teasing with laughter and agreement can stop the payoff the teaser is seeking.
Your child can disarm the teaser with some humorous phrases of agreement.
Some examples include:
• “Thank you for noticing!”
• “You got that right!”
• “You are so right!”
• “What can I say?”
• “I know—I wish I could be more like you!”
• “I can’t argue with that!”
• “Don’t I know it!”