Asperger’s Disorder children need to be taught not only how to experience share but why. The how can be learned through a variety of techniques you will read later in this chapter. The why must come from helping your child learn to enjoy experience sharing. He literally needs to learn that being with others is fun. Most children do not need to be taught this; from infancy through adulthood, we simply feel good in the company of people we like. This pleasure motivates us to seek them out again and again.
Look for moments to express pleasure being in his company, commenting on how it is the shared experience that makes it fun: “I am having so much fun putting on this puppet show with you! It sure beats doing it alone!” Point out positive emotions you see him and his playmate sharing: “Sure looks like you and Joanie are having fun together!”
Place your child in the company of others who enjoy him. Don’t worry if this involves more adults than peers. The importance is giving him the experience of bringing pleasure to another person in the hopes that he feels good about it and wants to repeat the experience.