Knowing your child does not “read between the lines” will help you to be more empathic and patient and less reactive when he seems to be mocking you. When your child was quite young, you probably were very patient in explaining things to her, telling her something over and over until she got it. Children with Asperger’s Disorder require this same kind of patience and repetition for years beyond what you would normally expect. Through no fault of their own they simply are extremely slow to understand the meaning of what others say unless it is very obvious and leaves no room for distortion.
You can save your child confusion and embarrassment by interpreting for her. Instead of letting her ask someone where the worms are that the early bird gets, you can interpret this for her in a question as if you are the one who needs help, such as asking, “Do you mean we should get up early to get our chores done before we go to the beach?” You can also phrase the interpretation in the form of an agreement, such as, “That’s right—we should get up early so we have the rest of the day to play.”