Expect your Asperger’s Disorder child to have difficulty with rule-bound thinking far longer than his peers. While his classmates have learned to tolerate small rule breaking for the sake of keeping a game going or maintaining a friendship, the Asperger’s Disorder child is very slow to understand this. He applies the concept of rules rigidly with no room for variation.
It may seem odd to set a goal to try to help him accept that sometimes rule breaking is okay, but the reality is that minor infractions happen. You certainly should not encourage him to break rules, but he will get along better with others if he can learn to tolerate it when they break a rule. Expect him to struggle with knowing which rules are “okay” to break and which ones are important to tell an adult when broken. Encourage him to ask for guidance on this. If you see that he has continuing difficulty with determining the difference between acceptable and unacceptable rule infractions, you can make him a list with one column of broken rules to tell an adult and the other column with broken rules he can ignore.