Your child will fare better with adults and peers if he learns to recognize when he has made errors in behavior and social interaction. He must then learn how to fix the situation. You can teach him simple statements he can use to show others he knows he made an error and that he is sorry for having done so.
Adults and children alike are far more tolerant of people who apologize for their mistakes than those who deny, rationalize, and blame others. Asperger’s Disorder children and teens have particular difficulty in admitting wrongdoing and apologizing.
Teaching your child the following statements can help your child get out of a negative situation and prevent additional problems:
• I’m sorry.
• I’m sorry; I was not thinking.
• I’m sorry; I did not mean to cause a problem.
• I’m sorry; I did not mean to hurt your feelings.
• I’m sorry; I’m confused. Can we start over?
• I’m sorry; I wasn’t paying attention. Can you tell me again?
• I’m sorry; that was the wrong thing for me to say.
• I’m sorry; I don’t know what you want me to do.