Make a list of all the behaviors you want your child to do. Next to each one, write down whether you want the behavior to increase or decrease. Write which behavior-modification technique you will use for each behavior. For behaviors you want to increase, you will want to use positive reinforcement or negative reinforcement.
For behaviors you want to decrease, you will want to use positive punishment or negative punishment.
Since we know that children and teens respond better to positive reinforcement, you should try to use this tool as often as possible. Behaviors you want to decrease can be viewed in the opposite direction. For example, you want your teenage son to stop breaking curfew and you use negative punishment of removing his car privileges for one week. Knowing that punishment may work less effectively than positive reinforcement, you can change the behavior to “Come home by curfew” with the goal of increasing this behavior.
Using positive reinforcement, you can reward your child with a tank of gas, or a later curfew, or spending money, thereby increasing his motivation to come home by curfew. If this fails to result in him making curfew, then negative punishment of removing the car just might.