Much of what you do to help your child learn skills and improve her behavior uses shaping. Make a list of the tasks, chores, and behaviors that you expect of your child. Mark those that he struggles with, break them down into tiny steps, and write a step-by-step procedure.
These written steps are for your use to guide you in shaping your child’s behavior, not for him to see. Decrease your expectations and set goals for your child to achieve only step one of each of the challenging behaviors. Take joy both when he tries and when he succeeds and share your happiness with him. Continue on with a very enthusiastic shaping program that progresses slowly and adds minor increases in expectations only after sure success in the prior step. You can use shaping on any behavior.
You may feel some frustration that your child is not learning the skill fast enough. This is most likely to occur in more challenging behaviors such as doing homework independently. Be careful not to add steps too fast. Unless your child automatically starts to do the next step, let him experience a few weeks of success before you add the next step.