Play dates give your child an opportunity to have fun with an agemate. The more chances she has for fun, the more joy she will experience and the greater chance she has to learn how to experience share and coregulate.
Play dates for Asperger’s Disorder children are best when they are brief, supervised by a parent, and have a focused activity. Your child should certainly have free time to play as she wishes without being scrutinized; however, she will also need your watchful eye nearby to help direct her and her playmate how to get along and use their social skills. Until you know your child can get along well with a particular peer, it is best to help them choose an activity that can take place while you are within earshot.
Many parents experience difficulty in finding playmates for their Asperger’s Disorder child. A surefire way is to volunteer to baby-sit another child for a short period of time. There are likely other parents in your neighborhood who are experiencing the same difficulty. Not only will both parents find their child a playmate, they can take turns doing the baby-sitting while the other parent gets a few hours of free time.