Asperger’s Disorder is a great inhibitor to social maintenance and repair. Being friends with an Asperger’s Disorder child is not likely to be very rewarding. Maintenance of a friendship is not a priority for Asperger’s Disorder children. They do not understand the concept of extending invitations and creating opportunities for fun as a way to start and maintain a friendship. Nor do they understand that in the midst of interacting with a peer, they must do things to sustain the pleasure if they do not want their playmate to quit and if they hope to have that peer play with them in the future. Asperger’s Disorder children are focused on their experience, not that of their peer.
Repair is very difficult for Asperger’s Disorder children. They do not seek to observe how their playmate feels. Nor do they attempt to understand why the other child is upset or what can be done to fix the situation so that they can keep playing together or remain friends. Apologizing for a misunderstanding does not come easy for the Asperger’s Disorder child. He does not see that he’s upset his friend and does not grasp the concept that sometimes you say you are sorry in order to save the friendship.