Asperger’s Disorder children do not find pleasure in having a shared experience. Some parents recall that their Asperger’s Disorder child did not engage in the typical pointing out and bringing of objects during infancy and the toddler years.
In preschool, elementary, and later years, the joy and excitement that comes from playing with friends escapes the child with Asperger’s Disorder. He is not interested in the novelty that a friend or playmate brings to the play experience. Instead, he finds his joy in getting the other person to act out the play exactly as he has it pictured in his mind. He does not want the other child to give input, ideas, or creativity. While other children find that playing, talking, or doing an activity is more fun with someone else, the Asperger’s Disorder child only likes to have another child around if he can be completely in charge.
Play and talking are more enjoyable if they do not have to factor in the wants, needs, interests, and feelings of others. When the Asperger’s Disorder child does share an item, interest, or thought, he does so to inform rather than to share the experience. When others seek to experience share with him, he shows little response that would motivate the other child to continue the interaction.