Unfortunately, there are no statistics to tell us how many adults with Asperger’s Disorder marry.
For every article that reports Asperger’s Disorder adults marry at the same rate as non-Asperger’s Disorder adults, there is a research survey that reports less than 5 percent ever marry. The vast number of social problems would suggest that marriage may not be in the future for some.
For those that do marry, there are unique challenges for the nonAsperger’s Disorder spouse. The enduring symptoms of Asperger’s Disorder can make a close relationship difficult, particularly if the spouse does not understand the disorder. Spouses are likely to use the terms self-centered, obsessive, and rigid to describe their Asperger’s Disorder partner. Emotional closeness is often lacking in these marriages as well. The non-Asperger’s Disorder spouse may feel as if she is not cared about and that the relationship is one-sided, with her putting forth all the effort for communicating, expressing feelings, and discussing problems. The non-Asperger’s Disorder spouse may feel left out of the Asperger’s Disorder spouse’s special interest. Attempts to have a shared experience are met with a dull, unenthusiastic response. The non-Asperger’s Disorder spouse is usually the social chairman and the representative of the family, leaving the Asperger’s Disorder spouse free from the stress of interpersonal communication.