Authoritarian parents enforce rules but at the expense of their child’s emotions. They use force and punishment to control their child, withdrawing and rejecting them when they disobey. These children tend to be anxious, withdrawn, and unhappy. Their social interactions are hostile and they are easily angered and defiant.
Permissive parents are nurturing but at the expense of imposing controls on their child. They allow their child to make decisions regardless of the child’s ability to do so. These children have little structure and are permitted to behave as they choose. They tend to be behaviorally out-of-control, incapable of controlling their impulses, disobedient, and rebellious.
In contrast, parents who use an authoritative style have children that are happy, self-confident, and self-controlled. Authoritative parenting involves parents who make reasonable demands for behavior enforced by limit setting and insistence on obedience. Failure to obey consistently results in appropriate consequences. When their children are defiant, authoritative parents are patient and rational. They do not give in or respond harshly, but use reasonable, firm control with warmth and affection. Children raised by authoritative parents have increased chances for higher self esteem, academic success, social maturity, and high moral achievement.