Regardless of age or disorder, behavior modification for any reason requires consistency. If you quit using behavior modification, your child usually quits behaving appropriately.
Consistency is important for all children, but even more critical for children and teens with Asperger’s Disorder. These children like things to be highly predictable so they know exactly what will happen and when it will happen. Routine helps your child feel less anxious, which in turn will translate into improved behavior as he will not be having outbursts or defiance in reaction to unpredictability.
This all works to your advantage as your child will function at his best with a highly structured, predictable, and consistent life at home. Behavior modification helps you to create clearly defined rules, consequences, and schedules. If you forget to give your child his reinforcer, chances are he will remind you until you give it to him.
True, it is hard to be consistent. No doubt about it, all the things parents have to do to raise a child with Asperger’s Disorder are exhausting. Try to not let yourself be so overwhelmed that you are just too tired to be consistent.