When children with Asperger’s Disorder become upset, they become more rigid in their thinking and “get stuck” with a thought. It can be difficult to interrupt their thought patterns and get them to see an alternative viewpoint. While it seems rational to try to reason and calmly explain the situation and persuade your child to find an alternative thought and behavior, her mind gets stuck on a thought, and like a needle stuck in a record, cannot switch gears. If you persist in trying to change his thought and behavior, you can often precipitate a meltdown.
Most people do not think clearly when they are upset, but those with Asperger’s Disorder have far greater trouble with this than most. It is as if they have two minds and when the emotional mind is in full gear the rational mind shuts off. A more helpful approach is to stop in your tracks and change the subject, redirect your child to an alternative pleasant activity, ask her to perform a particular duty she likes, or simply stop talking or leave the room. You can revisit the topic later when your child is calm and can hear what you have to say.