There are some general patterns that children and teens with Asperger’s Disorder have when they are most likely to react with emotional intensity:
• When they feel someone is invading their physical space
• When things are unpredictable
• When they are in new situations
• When they are not in control of the situation
• When they cannot predict what will happen next
Certainly, these situations cannot always be prevented. However, as often as you can set things up so these types of events do not happen, the fewer episodes your child will have. Having a highly organized household and daily routine will decrease outbursts. Using charts, calendars, and lists helps create predictability. Warning your child in advance of upcoming changes gives her time to emotionally accept the disruption in her routine.
Your child likely has other situations that cause him upset. It helps to keep a diary of the day’s events and note your child’s behavior and mood. Over time, when you reread your diary, you are likely to find patterns of situations that result in upset. As much as you can alter those situations to prevent the upset, the less instances of distress your child will have.