Completely independent from IQ, emotional intelligence, abbreviated as EQ, refers to how attuned someone is to feelings. We are born with an emotional intelligence that allows us to feel, use, communicate, recognize, remember, learn from, manage, and understand emotions. Those with high emotional intelligence are attuned both to the feelings of others as well as their own. They understand people’s moods, motivations, and desires.
Emotional intelligence allows us to recognize, identify, and express feelings. We do this through reading facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice, and considering these in the context in which they are expressed. We are able to correctly label our own feelings as well as others’ feelings and talk about, express, and manage them appropriately.
Emotional intelligence also allows us to use feelings in problem solving and decision making. It allows us to see the connection between thoughts, feelings, and behavior. With higher levels of emotional intelligence, we can understand how emotions change from one to other and how we can experience more than one feeling at a time, and sometimes have simultaneous feelings that are contradictory.