Asperger’s Disorder children are likely to be honest to the point of cruelty. They do not understand that it is socially inappropriate to say whatever comes to mind. Even when told not to say things that would hurt someone’s feelings, the Asperger’s Disorder child cannot understand what is wrong with telling the truth. They cannot stand in someone else’s shoes and understand what it feels like to be told that they are fat or that their hair looks weird. When corrected and told not to say such a thing, the Asperger’s Disorder child is bewildered and responds, “But it is true.”
This may sound like a description of the typical three or four-year old child who passes through a stage of saying aloud whatever he sees without regard for the impact it has on others. With coaching, however, most children quickly learn to keep their observations of people’s faults to themselves or to at least say it quietly to their parent. The Asperger’s Disorder child, however, does not understand how something that is true could hurt someone.