If it’s your wedding, the good news is you can have your gluten-free cake and eat it too. While it may be difficult finding a bakery in your town that can make a wedding cake using different gluten-free flours, most bakeries will know how to make a chocolate flourless cake or Ganache-style cake. If this style of cake suits your taste, special order it with the first tier being the gluten-free version that you and your spouse can share. You can order the other tiers of the cake for your guests using the bakery’s traditional cake recipes.
Or try to find a bakery that has gluten-free cake recipes or who would be willing to accommodate your needs by making a gluten-free cake from a recipe you provide. Offer suggestions on where they can purchase the flours and starches. But expect to pay more for your cake than you otherwise would. Gluten-free flours are more expensive, larger quantities will be used and the price will be passed on to you.
In either case, don’t forget to ask your bakery about how they will avoid cross-contact with gluten and meet your standards. Chances are they will not have dedicated space and will need to know something about the protocol. Don’t be bashful in sharing steps for them to follow.
And when you’re attending a wedding other than your own, arrive with the expectation that you won’t be able to partake. The upside? Just think about the calories you will save. Then, of course, this is a delicious excuse to have your own gluten-free cake waiting for you at home after the wedding. Thoughts of digging in after the reception will give you something to look forward to. The same advice applies for attending birthday parties other than your own.