Learning that your child has Asperger’s Disorder probably comes as a mix of upset and relief. It is certainly upsetting to learn that your child has a disorder, but at the same time many parents feel relieved to finally have a name to put to the problems they have observed in their child for years. It is important that you give yourself permission to feel sad and disappointed and to grieve the loss of the dreams you had. It is normal to feel these emotions and healthy to acknowledge and talk about them.
Once you let the grieving happen, you are emotionally free to spend your energies learning all you can about Asperger’s Disorder. With knowledge and understanding comes the compassion that your child needs. The more you understand the disorder the better job you will do in knowing which behaviors to tolerate, which to discipline, which to push, and which to just give up on. You will be better able to assist your child’s teachers in how to best teach him and better able to explain to friends, relatives, and coaches about why your child behaves the way he does.